We are to love our spouse, but we will see that the love Bible talks about is more of a person’s choice and commitment than emotion. Feelings are important in marriage; but if we marry a person of godly character, we can learn to love him/her.

God’s primary purpose for marriage is to use it to help shape us into the image of His Son. If we miss out on this we are doomed to a life of anxiety and frustration. 

The Marriage Vow clearly sets out God’s purpose for marriage as a Covenant. It states the reason for the Marriage Covenant, the responsibilities and obligations of each partner and the terms within which it functions. 

God not only has the knowledge of the best order for marriage but also desires to pass that on to us so that we can take advantage of it. Growing godly marriages happen when couples begin to build a strong, lasting unity with each other.

Are you experiencing the joy of intimacy as an overflow of a strong, growing and healthy relationship? Or do you long to return to the very first days of your marriage when the relationship seemed new, fresh and limitless?  

A love relationship left as it is will not improve with time; the original momentum will not continue; in fact the principle of deterioration sets in. People will have to work out their relationship to keep it. 

Therefore the Marriage covenant is like a cord with three strands – firstly the Marriage Covenant between the couple, secondly the Covenant between the couple and God thirdly the Covenant between the two families who are linked together by the marriage. 

The day we married our Pastor said “Each and every day you must wake up and choose to be married” 

It’s true that everyone who gets married with true love in their heart believes they’ll beat the odds and live a happy and blessed life but it is important to know skills for making a relationship work and we should also be aware of what will absolutely kill it.